Day 2: Educate us on something you know a lot about or are good at. Take any approach you'd like (serious and educational or funny and sarcastic).
Hmm... so what am I good at or what do I know a lot about *thinking*. Oh, yeah! I've been told that I'm really good at sexting :p.
I'm not on an Anthony Weiner level, but sexting is something I take very seriously.
I mean, it's the only moment I get to be the bad ass, acclaimed erotica writer that I believe I was supposed to be before an overzealous angel edited the original design for my life. The best part about sexting is its d 1 time dat writn w p00r gramar doesnt count. As long as you can make the girl feel like she's sexier, hotter, and more desirable than she is in reality, every other thing is pretty much overlooked. Haha.
Okay, on a serious note. So what do I know a lot about? Hmm, I guess this is not a bad place to write about caring for our hair. Every woman should know how to care for the hair that grows from her head, regardless of whether or not it ever sees the light of day beneath fake hair.
Ever since I went natural, I've learned a lot about how to care for my hair, and the tips I share here are things that work for my hair. Everyone's hair is different and responds differently to different products and methods, so I highly suggest that you try out different ideas on your hair and learn what is best for your hair. Having said that, I believe these general tips are good for all hair types.
1. Wash your hair.
Like seriously. It's not cool for your hair to go for 3 months or more without seeing a drop of water. Honestly, that is kind of disgusting when you think about it.
I'm not here to judge. I mean I was once guilty of going for lengthy periods of time without washing my hair, and boy, I suffered the consequences. I had crunchy, weak hair, with boat loads of dandruff. But ever since I ditched relaxers and started washing my hair at least once a week and on rare occasions once in 2 weeks, I've permanently said au revoir to dry scalp, dandruff, and weak limp hair.
If you're fine with waking up with strands of hair strewn around your pillow, constantly having your comb look like it went through the coat of a dog that sheds a lot, or having your shirt covered in bits and pieces of dandruff every time you touch your hair
So, girlfriend, even if you're team relaxer or you enjoy wearing disposed hair from the heads of Brazilian, Peruvian, and Indian girls, please wash your hair frequently. It's one of life's necessities. If you won't do it for yourself, please do it for the rest of us who don't enjoy inhaling that dirty hair smell.
2. Add water (moisture) to your hair frequently.
Now this is where the ever handy spray bottle comes in, y'all. The good news is that spray bottles are cheap. Trust me, they cost less than the price of em....... (well, you fill in the blank). The better news is that even if you don't have access to a spray bottle, you should have access to the contents of a spray bottle -- hopefully. Ladies, we all need to add water to our hair on the regular. This can't be a once in two weeks, once in a month, or only in January or when there's a full moon kind of thing. I'm not talking about exercising here. Although our hair will probably like that too, not to talk about our heart, and the mirror! Forget the crunches, the tap is where it's at. Or the well, the stream, the borehole, or the 25 liter gallon. Whatever your water source, get yourself some water and apply small quantities to your hair. If you got you one of them spray bottles, spritz water from it onto your hair. If you ain't got a spray bottle, dip your hands in a bowl of water, take it out, and run it through your hair. I use both methods, depending on how I feel. If I'm in a hurry and need to get it over with, I wet my hands and run it through my hair.
3. Manipulate your hair when it's wet.
Water really no get enemy, especially when it comes to black people's afro textured hair (singing Fela's Water No Get Enemy). It's mind blowing how far and fast the rumor that black hair doesn't need water traveled in the last few decades.
Blame lye. Lye lied. I've found that the easiest and fastest way for me to manipulate my hair with minimal breakage or pain is to do it when my hair's wet. It's much easier to weave, braid, and loosen my hair when it's wet.
4. A few basic products is all you need.
Do you feel totally lost and confused by all the hair products on the market? It's like black women can't cross the road without a new product getting shoved in our faces and down our throats. New argon oil from Mecca. Dead sea oil from Jerusalem. Double natural shea butter from breathing dead tree roots. Ice oils from the arctic. Sometimes it seems like we're swimming in an endless sea of enticing new products. That's not necessarily a bad thing, I mean a sista's gotta make a buck. However, if you're like most people, the endless choices may be leaving you feeling drained, and more prone to randomly purchasing products without thought, or even feeling choiceless. Welcome to the paradox of choices.
The best way to get through the sea of products is to know the basics. That's a minimum. It's your life vest.
- Avoid shampoos with sulfates. They dry hair.
- Most conditioners work alright. Just try to leave them on for at least 30 minutes per week.
- Put water in your hair every day. It prevents it from drying out and breaking.
- Add oil to your hair after washing/conditioning or spritzing. You don't need any fancifully named oil. Normal olive oil will do. I'll never forget my madam's very beautiful, long and healthy natural hair and all she ever used was olive oil.